Monday, July 31, 2006

A Single Mans Astrological Guide to Single Women

A Single Mans Astrological Guide to Single Women was written by Don Diebel and he writes "ARIES (March 21 - April 19) - She's aggressive with men, dynamic, hot-tempered, and very bossy. You must be very strong-willed with this woman and don't let her boss you around. Don't be a wimp, this woman loves a challenge.

She attracts men quiet easily and can discard them just as easily. Don't try to tie this woman down, she likes her freedom and doesn't like to be smothered. They are very energetic and aggressive in bed and reach orgasm very quickly. If you want some "hot" sex, this is the girl for you.

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20) - They don't call this the sign of the bull for nothing! This woman is bull-headed and she likes to get her own way and can be very stubborn..

She's very down-to-earth and loves to take care of her man, so be sure and go along with letting her mother you. Shower her with plants, flowers, and money. This woman is very sensual in bed and likes to make love slowly. She can literally make love for hours! I hope you have a lot of sexual stamina to keep up with her!

GEMINI (May 21 - June 21) - This woman is a big flirt, so if you're the jealous and possessive type this can cause problems. She's very intelligent and the best way to her heart is through her mind. You must keep her mind stimulated to keep her from getting bored with you.

She loves to travel, so take her for weekend get-aways out-of-town. She loves to be stroked, so be sure and give her a sensual massage. They love variety in their sex life, so be sure and try different positions and make love in different settings (in front of the fireplace, in the bath tub or shower, on the kitchen counter, in an open field, etc.).

CANCER (June 22 - July 22) - This woman will want to baby and take care of you. Let her do it, by all means, because its part of her maternal instincts.

She's very emotional and romantic, so you can really capture this woman's heart by doing anything romantic. She soaks up compliments like a sponge, so be sure to compliment her often. She makes a good sex partner because she will do anything to please her man.

LEO (July 23 - August 22) - This woman is very charming, has lots of sex appeal, and loves to party. She's a very social person and loves to be on the go. If you're a couch potato, you're not the man for her.

Very passionate and affectionate and has lots of love to give to the right guy. Attracted to unusual, dynamic men who are often a bit eccentric. You must be well-dressed and treat her like royalty because she has a strong ego. She's a real tiger in bed and rules the bedroom.

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22) - Very intellectual and a bit cool and acts aloof. Very picky about men and you must meet her high standards. Very critical nature.

Take it slow with this woman. It takes her awhile to warm up to you because of her cautious nature. It's worth it in the end because once she's yours she's yours to keep. Very faithful and devoted. Can be very exacting in bed and wants to follow a set routine. She wants everything to be perfect.

LIBRA (September 23 - October 23) - This is one of the most beautiful signs in the Zodiac. She's very feminine and her good looks attracts a lot of men.

She makes an ideal mate because she's so giving and loves peace and harmony. She's so sexy, seductive, and charming. A very social creature and very romantic and sentimental. Be sure and appeal to her romantic nature and she's all yours!

SCORPIO (October 24 - November 21) - This is a very intense and mysterious woman. She doesn't do anything half-hearted and when she sets her sights on a man she will pursue him with relentless intensity. She may even scare you away with her intensity, jealousy, and possessiveness.

She can be a very moody and emotional person. Don't get on the wrong side of this woman because she can make a dangerous enemy and will stop at nothing to get even with you.

Very intense in bed and probably the best lover in the Zodiac.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21) - She's very independent and loves her freedom. If you try to pin her down and you're the jealous and possessive type, you will scare this woman away.

She loves the outdoors and sports, so plan you're activities outside and play sports and attend sporting events. She loves to travel, so take her places to capture her heart. Enjoy her while she's around because her heart is known to wander. She doesn't like long-term commitments. You must have a good sense of humor and be happy-go-lucky like her.

CAPRICORN - (December 22 - January 19) - This woman is very reserved in the beginning but once you have broken down her barriers, she will love you with all her heart with lots of intensity. She's very ambitious and career-oriented. Appeal to her by talking about making money and attaining goals.

Move slow with this woman. You must become her friend first before you can get her in the sack. She's not into casual sex, so you must not be sexually aggressive with this woman.

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18) - Very intelligent and you must appeal to her mind. Can be very elusive and afraid of commitment. There are a lot of bachelorettes born under this sign and they usually marry late in life.

She's a strong believer in friendship and will remain your friend even after you have broken up. Keep in mind that they can be a little cold-natured, so if you're expecting a hot & sexy passionate sex-goddess, then you may be disappointed.

PISCES (February 19 - March 20) - If you want a loving, devoted, affectionate, sympathetic woman to cater to you're every need, this is the woman for you.

This woman need lots of affection and attention. The more romance you can give her the better! She's got lots of love to give in return. She's very emotional and moody, so you will have to help keep her balanced emotionally.

This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and become intimate with women, please visit his website at: - This article is copyright (c) 2005 by Don Diebel and may be reprinted in it's entirety as long as his website, byline, and copyright statement is included.

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How to Flirt and Never Get Rejected!

How to Flirt and Never Get Rejected! this articles was written by David King and he writes "When it comes to flirting, you can get your point across very easily just using your eyes. Take a moment and watch people who are in love. See how they look at each other - they stare directly into each other's eys for extended periods of time. Look at mere friends. See their eyes? They seem to flit back and forth, making eye contact, but never extended eye contact.

What do I mean by extended eye contact? Holding someone's gaze for 1-2 seconds. Looking deep into their eyes for that time. I realize that couples may look at each other in this way for longer periods of time, but remember they are ALLOWED to do this - they are a couple. For our purposes, you are just flirting.

If you were to try and stare into some girl's eyes for long periods of time (especially if you don't know her), she will think that you're staring at her and she'll think that you're strange (because you're making her feel uncomfortable).

The goal here is to make eye contact with her, and to hold her attention by looking straight into her eyes for a couple of seconds so that she gets the idea that you're interested in her.

Be sure to smile, or to at least have a partial smile on your face as you do this. If you stare at her like this with a stone face, you'll freak her out. She'll either think that you're mad at her, or that you're just some type of psycho (both are bad).

If she seems to quickly look away, she is either playing hard to get, or she doesn't have an interest in you. Either way, if you feel that she's worth the effort, you will probably have to persue some decent conversation with her.

If you have found this article interesting and want to learn more, you should check out David's website at, to learn more about flirting, talking to women or other specific tips and "how-to's" on finding the woman of your dreams.

David King is the author of the book entitled "How to Find the Woman of Your Dreams" which is available on his website,

His goal is to help Christian guys find the the beautiful woman that God has for them, using Biblical principles and natural techniques that honor and develop a real relationship with Jesus Christ.

He has also written content for a number of different websites including

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How To Have A Successful Conversation With Any Woman!

How To Have A Successful Conversation With Any Woman! this article was written by Marie Clare and she writes "To have a successful conversation with any woman you must know what to say, and what not to say. Once you have mastered this, your actions or words will never be misinterpreted again.

So, why are you talking to the beauty sitting beside you? Maybe you want a relationship, a one night stand, or simply good old "Hot Sex". Well, whatever the reason is you will need to use conversation as a way to get closer to her. To establish an intimate relationship with her. As explain in my book "the Ultimate Online Dating Handbook" a women will generally evaluate a relationship on how well she relates to a person. This means, how she interacts with you, and how you make her feel about herself. And, if you want to see her again it is important for you to get along well with her. Talk to her about her likes, her dislikes, ask her questions, answer her questions and offer your opinions.

Doing this will make her feel like you think she is special enough to start up a real honest to goodness conversation with her, and that you are not just playing her. This will make her feel closer to you. The main goal of this first conversation is to build the foundation for a possible relationship with this woman. To become personally involved with her, build her trust in you and to obtain curtain bits of information about her..

O.K., so what information are you looking for from her? Having a relationship with this woman will totally depend on whether or not you can get this information. Success or failure here will determine whether you ever see her again. If you are interested in her and you think you would like to see her again make it your priority to obtain the following...

#1 - Her Name

When you go up to a woman and introduce yourself to her, ask for her name as well. Then be sure to use her name in the next sentence or two. This will show her you were paying attention, and you are interested in her. It will also help youto remember her name, and make sure you heard it right.

#2 - A Common Denominator

Find a way the two of you can be connected. By this I mean something that you both have in common. It could be a mutual friend, the same drink, something about your surrounding, same brand of watch, anything that could link the two of you together. Use this common denominator to relate to her, and help her to form a trust in you.

#3 - Her Phone Number

This one can be a bit tougher, but before the conversation ends you must make sure you have a means of getting in touch with her again. A phone number or an email address. Even if she has taken your phone number you still want to get hers as well. Be direct when asking for this information. Tell her you would like to see her again to take her out. Use simple, straight forward language, make eye contact and tell her you would love to see her again.

Now back to the basics. Fact is men and women think and talk differently. Men think and talk facts. Women think and talk feelings. So if you want to talk successfully to a woman you will need to express emotions by telling her how you are feeling. Generally men are not too good at doing this. Therefore, the first thing you should do in your conversation with her is to listen. Yes, listen. Listen and relate to her conversation. Ask questions about what she is telling you. Share your personal experiences to create an intimate connection. Too often men will just ramble on about other things leaving the woman feeling bored and ignored. When a man really listens, pays attention to what the woman is saying and participates in her conversation, she will feel that this man is genuinely interested in her for her. This will make her feel really good about you. Women are not interested in a guy who only talks about himself, what prank he and his friends pulled. She also has a no interest in someone who is only trying to get her into bed. Now, while this maybe your ultimate goal, you'll need to play it cool with any woman until she feels comfortable with you.

In your conversation with this woman make sure she realizes you are paying attention to her. Use some verbal comments like "uh-huh", "Oh yeah", "Oh really" or "Is that right!". Once she feels you are trying to understand her and you want to get to know her better, she will become more relaxed with you. As you speak be attentive. Ask her questions like What? and How?. But, never ask Why? This will put her on the defensive. Get some back ground information on her as you participate in the conversation. Did she grow up in this city/town? Where did she go to school? Did she move here? What was it that brought her here? Show an interest and get involved in the conversation. You will surely impress her.

Good Luck!
Marie Clare

Marie Clare specializes in writing about Dating, Relationships and Romance. Check out her lastest Best Selling eBook "the Ultimate Online Dating Handbook" plus reviews of the Best Online Dating Sites, FREE Articles, Tips and Advice at

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How to Find True Love Quickly And Easily

How to Find True Love Quickly And Easily was written by Allie Mendoza and she writes "How often do you find yourself wishing you could find true love?

Unfortunately, you're not alone. With millions of singles out there, why is it so hard for most singles to find true love? It's just human nature. We usually don't hit it off with many people. The reality of the situation is that most of us are only compatible with few people we meet. And worse, the ones that we can get along with may not be attracted to us; it's just as likely for us not to find them attractive.

If you're like most singles, you probably spend too much time alone... much more than you would like. Some singles are just fine being alone, but most end up being unhappy and alone. Why? A big part of the problem is that many singles expect someone special to find them. It's so common for singles to think: "I just have to be patient. Someday, love will find me."

Maybe it has something to do with the fairy tales we used to believe in when we were young. Unfortunately, in our not-quite-so-fairy-tale real life, the prince or princess will probably not be coming someday... maybe not ever! And the "frog" you've been kissing is not going to turn into a handsome prince or a beautiful princess anytime soon.

Be honest! Do you really expect true love to find you? How long have you been waiting and hoping for this to happen? And how is that working for you? Maybe it's time for you to have a different plan.

There's no need to keep hoping and waiting for true love to find you. You can take control of your love life and your social life. Make it easier on yourself to find that special someone... sooner rather than later. How? You can take advantage of online dating services. Millions of singles now have found true love online -- even those who never thought they could.

Finding someone special doesn't have to be that hard. You'll be just as happy if you find your true love quickly and easily. There's no reward for doing it the hard way.

Don't let your fears hold you back. If you're serious about wanting to find true love, join one of the dating services available online. It's usually free to browse and check out interesting singles. You owe it to yourself to just do it. You can meet new friends to hang out with. You can meet someone to date or you can meet your soul mate. You deserve to find your true love. You deserve to have more fun!

Allie Mendoza specializes in strategies that get results faster, easier and cheaper. To learn strategies for making online dating work for you faster, easier and cheaper, click Get tips on dating better and safer online. Learn how to write an interesting and effective personal ad that gets more responses.

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Sunday, July 30, 2006

Dating Advice! Where Safety Always Comes First

Dating Advice! Where Safety Always Comes First was written by William and he writes "Dating advice for people dating online, where safe dating will always be a priority!

For many of you that are starting to move from the traditional local dating avenues to find relationships and love, and are now using dating online as your source, keep in mind that common sense must still be an important element when involving your dating relationships online.

Before you decide what dating sites to use, make sure you read their dating tips that provide valuable information on how to best keep you safe. Some will send you articles and newsletters and provide tips online to keep you up to date on security issues. Even if you're fully aware of the bad things that can occur out there, it's always good to have a site that cares enough to remind you from time to time..

If safety is a major priority and concern as you venture online, there are many available dating sites that focus on your privacy and well being, as well as having all the proper screening tools. You will find dating information in more detail directly on their sites, and you will see that they will emphasize the key features they use to assist in providing a peace of mind experience.

Take the time to read their articles; they may give you valuable tips from finding love to how to keep safe while dating people on the Internet. If they have member profiles issuing testimonials on their experiences, read them and see how they like the service offered.

Even though women have built in instincts, it's always good to be reminded that online relationships should be treated with a careful approach, just the same if you were to meet singles in your own community. Once you become a member, make sure the dating company has blocking features for the emails, and that they keep your email address confidential. This should also apply to the personals, and chat services. On your end make sure you never provide personal contact information, full name, and never give out your home phone number!

Another important detail to remember is if you ever feel uncomfortable with a member that could be a little too aggressive, or is presenting something that is false, make sure you contact the dating company's customer service assistance line and advise them of the actions. This is imperative to eliminate the bad apples out there, so you can enjoy your dating relationships online to find romance and love!

About the author: William is the owner and the author of "Intimate Adult Dating Web Site" available at

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Dating Tool: Confidence 101

Dating Tool: Confidence 101 was written by Kerr S. Lordygan and he writes "I'm over it. "There's plenty of fish in the sea," they say. Well, apparently I have been using the wrong bait. Nobody said dating would be easy, but Hollywood sure likes to paint it that way, doesn't it? "There's someone for everyone," they say. Maybe that ought to translate to, "There's someone for everyone?.as long as you're a muscled pretty boy with washboard abs, and at least 6 feet tall."

So how does one get by this unsettling dating stipulation? Are we actually to believe that love will find us when we're not looking? I think people who say that are normally in happy relationships when they say it. Can we "buy" outer beauty from an online store to match our own inner beauty? Somebody is buying pheromones and weight-loss pills and liposuction and facial restructuring. Hell, now people even get plastic surgery to make them look like a celebrity. Huh??? And you know what? I bet these things work for people. As long as it can build the confidence up in someone, it also strengthens the attraction. So how can we build up that confidence without spending tons of money to people who know how the game works? Sounds like a question for the shrink..

I suppose its all part of why I started up a matchmaking service with a friend of mine in Los Angeles. It can be so frustrating out there. And being "alone" can only make your work day more stressful, it seems. So if I had someone to do the dirty work for me?.get me the dating connections, counsel me on why I might not be getting that second date, maybe my frustration level would decrease. So I went into the business?.pretty much as a means to find out what can be done to find the perfect one.

OK, so nobody's perfect, but at least maybe I can find a decent one who happens to have similar ethics as myself. Oh, and a killer sense of humour is mandatory. But looking around, nobody was going to help me, a fact that made me feel even more alone! So I had to do it myself. Such is life, right? Part of it might be that I feel a need to always be in control of my own destiny. As long as I am actively pursuing something, I am a success. Yea, that sounds right! So I joined forced with my cohort and we started Let's Meet Here. Now I'm gonna' find the one, right?


As it seems unethical to date my own clients (damn, I knew I'd run into some roadblock!), I figured?.at least pass on any information I can gather to those who need it (and baby, we all need it!). Granted, I am learning about all this stuff now. It seems every date and every relationship is completely unique. There is no list of do's and don'ts that applies. But I do know that going into the business has allowed me an increase in confidence that is apparent in me without my even having to think about it. I am starting to really believe that success comes from the active pursuit of a goal, whether or not the goal is achieved. The process in itself builds character?and character is attractive.

So while I learn as I go, I will show as I go too. It is absolutely within my own power to be a success. And the pursuit of achievements is an achievement of its own. However, I have also learned that a little is never enough. And to settle after one's success is no success at all. Maybe now I'm fishing with the right bait!

About The Author
Kerr S. Lordygan a professional matchmaker and business advisor, is a Relationship Director for Let's Meet Here LLC. His efforts on behalf of relationship-minded people include numerous positive testimonials, including praise from a recently married couple first introduced through Kerr's guidance. An accomplished musician and formally trained playwright, Kerr is a veteran stage producer and featured artist at venues in Japan and Scotland. A graduate of the University of Southern California, Kerr is also a regularly published theater critic for several entertainment magazines. He lives in Los Angeles.
He can be contacted at

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Top Ten Ways to Get Yourself Ready for Dating

Top Ten Ways to Get Yourself Ready for Dating was written by Jane Johnson and she writes "1) So what's it gonna be?

Decide on your attitude - a positive attitude can make all the difference. If you view dating or finding your soul-mate as a nagging problem that has yet to be resolved - you effectively close down access for increased possibilities to come in. By adopting an attitude of optimism you create space for broader thinking and infinite possibilities.

2) What I really want is?
What is your primary aim for dating or in attracting a soul-mate? Define with clarity what your purpose is. Clarity is what brings balance between hope and fear. List 50 qualities you most want in a long-term relationship. Check-mark those qualities that are non-negotiable..

3) What's important?
Get clear about your personal values. What is most important to you about how you live your life? Your values are your personal operating system. Use them as your decision making tool - which includes evaluating if a relationship is right for you or not.

4) Yep - that's me!
What makes you happy? What lights you up? What is the passion that fuels your dreams? What are your strengths? What are your needs? Know yourself better than you know anyone else. When you can easily and confidently talk about "who you are" you become a magnet for what you want most AND people will help you get it - because you have told them! You know that feeling of satisfaction when you help someone get what they want? Well others want to help you too! The clearer you are about what you want - the more others understand and can help you get it.

5) Ahhhhh?extreme self-care - it's a wonderful thing!
Take care of you first! Do things that make you happy and make you feel good. Create reserves! When you are happy and healthy you have more to share with others.

6) Thank you for being my friend.
Get positive support. Assemble a group of amazing friends who want the best for you and will be there to remind you how amazing you are. Having supportive, positive people in your life is crucial to calling forth the best in you.

7) Who's that and what are they saying?
Others will be your mirror. Try to be conscious of your feelings and when you feel a "charge". If you are happy and having great fun - look for the mirror that person is holding up - the reflection is likely those qualities about yourself that you enjoy most. Likewise, if you are not happy with the reflection and feel a negative charge, look for the mirror. How do those qualities show up in you? Awareness creates choice.

8) Bye, Bye Excess Baggage
Let go of the past. Be emotionally available for a healthy, happy relationship to come into your life. If you are holding on to past hurts or past relationships that you wished you'd handled differently - let them go. They are over. You have a chance to start anew and get exactly what you really desire.

9) You are so fascinating!
You had a life before you started dating, which may even be what attracted your mate to you. Don't lose yourself in a new relationship and forget about your friends and all the things you enjoy doing. Keep doing things that interest you and find things you enjoy doing as a couple.

10) So that's what that was about?
Be in relationship learning mode at all times. What patterns of behavior show up in your relationships? Examine all that didn't work and look for new ways to behave your way to healthy, happy relationships.

About The Author
This piece was originally submitted by Jane Johnson, a certified life coach who has experienced the world of internet dating. After a nearly 20 year hiatus from dating, she immersed herself in the activity. The following are tips from her observations, interviews and personal experiences. You can reach her at

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Funnel Your Way to Love

I call it "The Funnel." And it's the best way to view your online dating experience. A numbers game it is, and your job is to funnel your way through prospects until you find what you're looking for.

Stage 1 of the Funnel: On most dating sites, there's a database of users and you have the ability to search through those users with any given set of criteria such as age, geography and the like. Upon running a search, you will scan the results to find profiles that compel you. If you're wise you'll read through their entire profile, trying to get the best sense of who this person is and ultimately, if you might be a good fit for them. Don't be guilty of basing your judgment on photos alone. While photos are useful reference points, the rest of the profile can offer great insight into the person that a photo alone could never do..

Stage 2 of the Funnel: Once you find profiles that fit your taste, you will write a persuasive initial email to solicit their interest, and hopefully, a timely response. In some cases you will get the desired response, in many other cases you will hear nothing but the sound of crickets on the lawn. Don't fret, it's par for the course. The modus operandi of internet daters is to simply not respond to an email if they are not interested or otherwise unavailable. Do not expect an explanation from them, and don't ever take it personally. I've researched and counted over 79 reasons for people not to respond to such emails, and over half of them have nothing to do with you at all!

Stage 3 of the Funnel: Then there are those who do respond, and an email conversation ensues. Be creative, be curious, but most of all, be real. Your objective is to get to know each other better and determine if you should move to Stage Four. There will be times where your email communication with this person ceases either due to your lack of interest or time, or theirs. It is a natural culling process and not all candidates will move on through The Funnel.

Stage 4 of the Funnel: If you're hitting it off in email and are comfortable, you will want to suggest a phone conversation. I recommend that within a few emails back and forth, you offer up your phone number. Once again, sometimes you'll hit it off and sometimes not. Having a chance to hear someone's voice and speak with them on the phone provides lots more insight into who you're dealing with. And you can determine whether there's chemistry between you!

Stage 5 of the Funnel: If you've got chemistry, you'll probably want to setup a meeting! I always suggest to my clients that you agree to meet for coffee in a public place for a short (1 hour) date. This is the safest way to take it to the next level and explore your chemistry and compatibility. If it's smooth sailing, you can extend it. If it's not quite what you were hoping? hey, it's only an hour. Remember to keep expectations at a minimum and standards high. This is another number game, and it should be tons of fun in the process.

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Ten Great Holiday Dates For Singles

Ten Great Holiday Dates For Singles was written Toni Coleman and he writes "Dating during the holiday season can be a special treat. Of course, in order to fully experience this you may need to re-order some priorities and make time for yourself and your own personal needs. Don't give into the temptation to put your social life on hold until after the New Year. Manage those work projects and family demands in a way that leaves you open to try some of the romantic and fun-filled activities that are available at this time of year.

The following 10 date ideas should help put you in the mood and may even inspire you to come up with a few on your own.

1.Have a "progressive" dinner together. Go to one place for your appetizer, another (romantic and intimate) place for your dinner; and then have dessert and coffee (nightcap), in a quiet spot with a beautiful view of holiday lights or other holiday views. Even better, go by limo, so you have all your time to focus on each other and don't have to worry about all the driving..

2. Take a holiday tour of historic homes in your area. Many areas of the country have these. Often they are done in the evening by candlelight. Afterwards, you can go for a walk and view the surrounding neighborhood lights and decorations. Finish with coffee in a quiet bistro.

3. Get dressed up and attend a holiday concert or play. You can spend a lot or very little on this kind of date, depending where you go for the entertainment. A nice little before or after meal fills out the evening.

4. Go and get hot chocolate with your date; then go look at Christmas lights or displays available in your area. Many places have dazzling displays that light up the night.

5. Go ice skating together. Find a nice place, not too crowded. This brings out the playful side and encourages a lot of interaction with each other. Hold hands, show off, race- be kids again!

6. Attend a religious service together. This could be accomplished by going to a place of worship that one (or both) of you belong to; or you could go to a non-denominational service. An evening service, followed by a supper in an intimate restaurant could fill you with a sense of well-being and peacefulness.

7. Throw a small holiday get-together with a few other couples (or friends). Plan an activity such as trimming the tree or lighting the menorah. Be sure to serve festive food and drink. A bonus would be to have a secret Santa gift exchange. This would be where each person brings a gift ($10.00 or less). Everyone picks a number. Person with number one begins with first selection. Go through all the numbers and open each gift in front of the group. Exchanging is fine and provides some extra fun. Lots of laughs and very interactive.

8. Choose your or his/her place, stay home, rent old holiday classics, light the fire and cook a simple but festive meal together. Play holiday music while you cook. Then watch (a few if you like) holiday favorites together. Or, you can bake Christmas cookies or other holiday treats together while listening to music and enjoying the fire.

9. Work at a soup kitchen one day (meal) together. Sharing the experience of giving is a wonderful way to get to know someone and deepen a relationship. It is also a great way to get into the true holiday spirit. After the clean up, go for a walk followed by coffee or a nightcap.

10. Go to a planetarium (if one is nearby). Enjoy the spectacular winter sky together. There is usually a guided "show" that you can experience as you sit closely, (perhaps hand in hand?). Try to pick out constellations together as you walk back to your car. It is always nice to have an intimate meal afterwards.

See if you can add some ideas of your own to this list. Then put aside several evenings over the next few weeks and awaken those feelings of peace, joy and goodwill for others.

Happy Holidays!

Toni Coleman is a licensed therapist and relationship coach in private practice in McLean, Virginia. She specializes in working with singles that want to create lasting, intimate relationships. Toni has over 20 years of post-masters experience in relationship counseling and coaching with singles and couples. She is the founder and President of LifeChange Coaching and Consum-mate Relationship Coaching. She developed and teaches the Creating Lasting Relationships Training, a tele-workshop designed to help singles to define, implement and fulfill their life and relationship goals. She has also written numerous email classes for singles on all aspects of meeting, dating and relating. She is the author of the email newsletter, The Art of Intimacy, which goes out to thousands of subscribers monthly.

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Saturday, July 29, 2006

Dating Rules - Show Tolerance, be Easy

Dating Rules - Show Tolerance, be Easy was written by Yair Czitrom and writes "You should show a tolerant and open-minded attitude towards many subjects. Imagine the following sentences:

A: "All bugga-huggawoks always make trouble. I hate them"
B: "Bugga-huggawoks are often difficult. Some of them are OK though".

Now, whatever bugga-huggawoks are, sentence B seems to be more reasonable. If you start sentences like A and insist that there are no exceptions and get angry then
  • you involve yourself in an uneasy talk
  • you show intolerant temper
  • you show extreme attitudes ("all", "always","hate")
  • you show that you have less knowledge than someone who says sentence B (because he knows good bugga-huggawoks and you don't)
  • you show that you have little experience, since there are always exceptions, but you never encountered them
  • since you have little experience you are a prejudiced hater ("I hate them")
  • you don't admit that you are wrong most probably
  • you show sarcasm and negativity and that tells that you are probably on the losing side of life (see Don't symbolize a loser)

ANYTHING that can cause YOU a bad mood or HER a bad mood should be avoided (unless you are self-confident enough to make her smile again). Please also read and Don't be a Crybaby.

Maybe the only exception (where you actually CAN say that you hate something) are "spiders". Women usually hate spiders/bugs/midges/... too. But don't forget to add "I usually kill them whenever I see them" to become her hero :-)

Moreover, don't start fights. Fights are something you do not want to have in a human-human relationship. Fights have winners and losers. But you shouldn't want to make your partner lose. Nor your partner you. Do some "peaceful negotiating" where everybody wins instead.

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Yair Czitrom is the owner and webmaster of - An experienced online dater that took his dating knowledge and web skills to help other daters/singles in today's cyber world. He is an expert writer on and

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Find Reputable Internet Dating Services That Want To Earn Your Trust

Find Reputable Internet Dating Services That Want To Earn Your Trust was written by William and he writes "Internet dating services are popping up online like dandelions in the spring, and sometimes for a newcomer, it's hard to recognize which ones are the reputable dating sites that are willing to offer you the best Internet dating service to earn your trust, and which ones are out to take your money with false promises!

In order to find an online dating site that you will be comfortable with, you have to visit each one individually online, view their services, and hopefully the information they provide makes you feel at ease!

How do you know if one particular dating service is more genuine over the other dating services? At first you don't know, because you're relying on their written sales jargon!.

When you land on their page it looks nice and fancy, and it shows lots of single members with beautiful photos, and well written profiles, but do you ever ask yourself, is that person's photo real, were the relationships posted true, or is this a way to entice you to join?

If the above questions are a concern to you, then you have to do your research, read and fully understand their policy and privacy statements, and most of all go with your gut instincts if something doesn't sound right!

Most of the top dating relationship sites offer free dating services such as free personals, and free matchmaking to secure your trust, but they also make it clear that they provide more advanced services for their online members with many options and secure features.

So for any reason you stumble on a so-called free dating web site, make sure you find out where they are getting money to support their dating business. Nothing is totally free, and you have to be very careful they don't have a hidden agenda.

Never provide personal information such as your credit card number, or online banking information if you're not completely satisfied with a particular Internet service and their lack of security features!

The online dating industry is truly exciting, and it is a fantastic way to conveniently find singles that have your same interests in mind.

By saying this, there are many online matchmaking businesses that have a very good reputation, and have proven to be successful in providing avenues for single men and women searching for relationships on the Internet.

However, always do extensive research, and use your best instincts to make sure your safety is first priority. Once you feel comfortable, you're ready to take the next step to finding your true love online.

About the author: William is the owner and the author of "Intimate Adult Dating Web Site" available at

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How to Get More Responses at Online Dating Sites

How to Get More Responses at Online Dating Sites was written by Sharon and he writes "So, you've decided to join a dating website. You're hoping someone out there will find something interesting about you and try to get to know you better.

Many members worry about appearing 'desperate' or over keen. This can mean putting in less effort into a profile in a bid to 'play it cool'. Of course, nobody wishes to be seen as desperate. However, keep this in mind: how will others know what you want, if you don't ask for it? How will they ever appreciate your finer qualities if you remain tightlipped?

Therefore, to be successful in the online dating world, your profile is highly important. Members search through a large number of profiles on these sites. If there is little information about a prospective date, then they are more than likely to skim over an empty profile as quickly as possible. Look at this as a great chance to sell yourself!

The first aspect of your profile to consider should be your photo. No matter how much emphasis people put on the importance of personality, the old expression, 'it's nice to put a face to a name' couldn't be more apt..

Physical appearance plays a big part in the real world, when first becoming attracted to someone. Also, it helps to ensure that people will remember you. The golden rule when posting photos on dating sites is obvious - BE HONEST. We've all heard stories of people who've posted a photo that is ten or twenty years old. Or worse still, a photo of someone else entirely! Now, if you never intend to meet someone, then this is not a problem. But let's be realistic - you wouldn't be on a dating site if you weren't hoping to meet someone!

A misleading photo causes all sorts of unnecessary problems on a first date. You will have your date questioning your honesty. You want to turn up for dates relaxed, with your best attitude put forward. Still not convinced? Just think how you would feel, if you were deceived by a photo, and that should be incentive enough for you to be accurate.

So what if you've gained a few pounds? Aged a bit? Give yourself some credit, you're still a beautiful person, and sure to be someone's ideal 'type'. So, try to get a recent photo of yourself, looking the best you can. Avoid shots that are so dark or distant that no one can see your face. People will only see either an insecure person, or someone who has something to hide and move on. Just think how frustrated and disinterested you'd be if you came across such a picture.

Let's talk about location. How much information is right? Obviously, for safety reasons you aren't going to put your address into your profile. Apart from this, put as much detail as you feel comfortable with. At least, put the state you live in. at most, your suburb. Anything in between (such as the city your suburb is located in) is also fine. We all know this, but it bears repeating, do not put your phone number on any public site.

It will save everyone a great deal of time if you are open and honest about your sexual preference.

Talk about your interests and hobbies. Don't just leave it blank! And don't worry if they don't seem interesting enough. This is who you are. If you are honest and forthcoming with this information, you will be more likely to attract the type of person you are after. For example, if you were the district running champion in high school, but never intend to run again, don't put it in as a hobby! To put in hobbies you have no interest in, in the hope of appearing more impressive, will only attract people you have nothing in common with in the here and now.

So, if you like quiet nights in, say so! Try to paint a rich and detailed picture of what the real you likes to do.

You also really need to share a part of your personality with your audience. What are your beliefs? What are you looking for in a person? Also, if you feel you have special qualities such as a sense of humour or kind nature, try to write your profile in a way that sincerely reflects that.

You are now ready to make your first attempt at creating a winning profile! Remember, you just need to keep it honest and current. You need to show you've made some level of effort to let members know who the real you is. And when in doubt, remind yourself: give the sort of information you yourself would be wanting to know about when looking at other members. Good luck!

Sharon is the owner of the free dating site,

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Online Dating - How To Avoid Faked Photos

Online Dating - How To Avoid Faked Photos was written by Ian Mansfield and he writes "One of the great things about online dating is the ability to read the profiles of hundreds of people in the peace and quiet of your own home. You can scan for key interests and age groups in perfect anonymity without expressing your preferences "in public".

However, you are often relying on the honesty of the other person to make your search a worthwhile one.

Obviously, when out in pubs and bars, this is still an issue, and lets be honest, who hasn't embellished their jobs and social life story at least a tiny bit to impress that prospective date.

So, online dating can solve that problem - but it does sometimes bring up another issue - the less than honest profile photos.

Unlike in a real world bar or pub, you are relying on the honesty of the photo that the other person has uploaded to their web site..

A lot of people will try to take the most flattering photo possible - and who can blame them for that!

However, there are those who will pull out a computer graphics program and deliberately lie about their appearance by making subtle modifications to their appearance. Even worse, are those people who steal other peoples photos and use them - not only is this fraud, we would be rightly concerned about meeting people who would consider doing that.

So, how do we avoid these pitfalls with online dating.

One great way that is now starting to take off is webcam chatting via dating web sites.

It is practically impossible to modify your appearance via an online live webcam chat service and it really does offer a fantastic way of meeting people for a few minutes in the safety of your own home before you decide to meet up in the scary "real world".

By using dating web sites to manage your webcam chat you also gain the added level of privacy in that that website should hide your IP address and physical location - something which would not be possible if you chatted directly with the person.

This can be important if you are just dipping your toe in the world of online dating and want to protect your privacy - while still letting people see who you are and what interests you have.

In summary, webcams offer an exciting and safe new way of online dating that offers security and honesty in both parties.

Ian Mansfield is a staff writer at a large gay dating site that offers secure and anonymous webcam chatting services.

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Thursday, July 27, 2006

How to Tell if a Single Woman is Really Interested in You

How to Tell if a Single Woman is Really Interested in You was written by Don Diebel and he writes "It's very important to learn how a single woman acts, speaks, and uses body language around you that indicates that she is romantically or sexually interested in you. When you learn these signs, you can use this to your advantage. If a woman is truly interested in you, this really increases your chances of scoring with her.

Use these guidelines to tell if a single woman is truly interested and attracted to you:

1. Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing, with a relaxed face.

2. She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated (this could be mistaken for being high on drugs)..

3. Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her

lips or touching of her front teeth.

4. While talking to you she is slowly stroking her cocktail glass up and down with her thumb and index finger.

5. If she is wearing clothes that shows her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky and erect.

6. She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.

7. Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

8. She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.

9. She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way.

10. She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and toward you.

11. She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.

12. She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.

13. She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.

14. Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.

15. She rubs her wrists up and down.

16. She puts her fingernail between her teeth.

17. She laughs in unison with you.

18. She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you.

19. Plays with her jewelry, especially with stroking and pulling motions.

20. She mirrors your body language and body positions.

21. Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile usually indicates interest in you.

22. While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.

23. In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

24. While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.

25. She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.

I know this is a lot of signs to look for, but this will be to your advantage to know if she's interested in you. If she's not truly interested in you, you will just be wasting your time on her. Memorize these positive signs to determine if she's got the "hots" for you and take advantage of the situation accordingly with your charm and seduction techniques.

This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and become intimate with women, please visit his website at: - This article is copyright (c) 2005 by Don Diebel and may be reprinted in it's entirety as long as his website, byline, and copyright statement is included.

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Public Displays of Affection: How to Fake It

Public Displays of Affection: How to Fake It was written by and they write "You see it all the time, and it makes you want to puke. You're telling them to 'Get a Room!' The problem is, the girl by your side secretly wishes you were slobbering on her...showing the world your love and devotion. Why do they like public displays of affection? That's not the subject of this article. We're trying to figure out how to get around it. How to give your girl the good feelings without embarrassing ourselves. Here's a few helpful tips:

1. Put your hands on her shoulders and give a quick squeeze after pulling her chair out for her.

2. Rub your hand down her back when you hold her jacket. Then slide it around her waist for a quick hug..

3. Help her with her necklace or earrings, and caress her neck as you do it.

4. Blow in her ear (or lick) as you lean over to tell her a secret.

5. Put your hands around her waist as you help her up or down.

6. Play footsie under the table.

7. Caress her wrist whenever you hand something to her.

8. If you need her to move out of your way, slip your arm around her waist and guide her to the side.

9. Tell her there's something in her hair and run your fingers through it as you try to get it out.

10. Tell her she sat in something know.

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How to Overcome The Fear of Rejection

How to Overcome The Fear of Rejection was written Rick Valens and he writes "Feeling uncomfortable in the stomach, cold sweaty palm, trembling of legs, losing the ability to think correctly when approaching a girl? Hate yourself for not able to overcome this problem? Oh? please do not feel so. Believe me, you are not the only one facing this problem. In fact, this is a very common problem in man. Everyone is just like you, not willing to admit it openly, having the fear of being laughed and mocked by others. But there's absolutely nothing wrong for feeling so.

Well approaching a girl, asking her out for a date isn't really as scary as you thought. For all you may know, the girl is just as or even more nervous than you. Some guys are born with the natural flair with girls while some guys are just born shy. But that doesn't mean that they can't do as good. In fact, shy men are whom most girls are looking for. It's a pity that all the good men are hiding up leaving the girls with not much of a choice but to hang out with the jerks..

So how can you overcome your fear? Well, this is something that I can't help you. You simply just got to make that first step, that very first attempt. Hmm? still feeling too nervous? Ok, perhaps we should take things a little slower. There's actually no urgent need for you to just walk up to a girl and ask her out for a date. Too sudden? You might just scare her off. But please, don't take for ages before someone else try to cut in the queue. I don't suppose you memorized your whole school textbook before going for your exams? It's the same thing, you don't need to wait till you fully overcome your fear before you approach a girl.

Hmm? anyway, I should believe that the both of you are at least like normal friends? Classmates? Colleagues or?? Whatever it is, grab any chance to get closer to her. Too shy to strike a conversation with her? Look her in the eyes, drop her a nice warm smile. Make her notice you, make her remember you, let her know that you exist! You be surprised, your eyes can actually work more wonders than to words at times. All these will eventually boost the chance of success when approaching her at a later date. She will naturally feel more comfortable with you than to be approached by a total stranger.

Ok, now that you have done all of what you can do, no more excuses from you! Stop hiding up, it's time to make your move. Now, I want you to follow very closely after me. Take a deep breathe, gather all your courage. She is sitting all alone on the bench under the tree. Slowly and steady, you walk towards her. Yes, step by step getting nearer and nearer. She turns and saw you approaching. Remember, she has seen you before, she knows who you are. Now look her in the eyes, smile at her. She greets you with her nice gentle smile. One final step, you stop in front of her. "Hi, what a coincides to see you here", you say to her in a nice, friendly voice. "Busy with anything now? How about a little coffee together?" Smiling so sweetly at you she replies teasingly, "Your treat? Sure why not??"

Hey you still with me? Ha sorry, was just trying to play a little game of hypnosis with you. Did I fare horribly? Well anyway, it would really be so lovely if things were as what I had described? Why not? Why couldn't it be possible? You see, the problem with most people is that they always tend to create negative thoughts; creating an image of failure, an image of been rejected in their mind before things actually happen. Subconsciously, they have actually rejected themselves before anyone else could even reject them and yes, the likely chances is they will fail. Just like in soccer matches, when David Beckham scores from his spectacular free kick? If at the moment before he even lifts his feet, he was creating the image of ballooning away the ball over the goal post in his mind, you think he will score? So why not picture things the other way round, telling your mind; yourself that you are going to make it? It will definitely boosts your confidence and the chance of a success.

Hmm? hope you are feeling more comfortable and less nervous now? Well, the chance of being rejected is nonetheless still there. So what should happen if you really fail? You should learn to graciously accept the rejection. It's perfectly alright, my friend. At least you know you have tried? You finally pluck out that courage? There's nothing to feel ashamed of. Picture it this way; you are the one being approached instead. Approached by a girl that's not of your type. You would have rejected her as well, wouldn't you? But would you make fun of her, laugh and mock at her? I should believe not? Instead, you would have felt happy and thankful to her; it's just a pity that she's not your type of girl? That's exactly how the girl whom rejected you would have felt too; it's just a pity that you are not her type of guy. Nobody would be laughing at you, probably they would be admiring you for your courage instead.

Though you might be rejected but believe me, once there's a first time the rest will just come naturally. You might be sad and disappointed but once you get yourself back, you would have remembered that it wasn't as scary what you had thought. You would have probably already overcome a great deal of your fear. It's just like the first time driving out on your own after getting your license. For some unlucky ones, meeting up with a little accident. But that doesn't stop them from driving on? In fact, experiences were gained. So was confidence along the way, driving more smoothly, stepping even harder on the accelerator?

Well, rejection is part and parcel of life. It's not only in love that you get rejected. In life, you are faced with more rejections. Rejections from your work? Your boss? Your business associates? Even your own family? But that won't stop you from moving on in life?

Last but not least, there's one thing you have to accept. The fact that, you are a man! It's afterall still the guy's job to do the asking. You just gotta do it and I am sure you can do it yeah?

Rick Valens
Staff Writer
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How to Get a Girl to Like You

How to Get a Girl to Like You was written by John Alexander and he writes "We've all had that special woman in our lives. You know... the one with the sweet personality, the really nice hair and a perfect face. She dates the more "adept" guys... but how can you get her to like you?

While men are primarily attracted to women based on their looks, a woman finds a man attractive because of his personality. A ideal man is an alpha male who's confident in himself and not afraid to take the lead and get what he wants out of life.

Ironically, what this means then is that the best way for a girl to like you is when she feels like she has EARNED you.

That's because to get a girl to like you, you should come from a mindset of high value. Never come from a position of neediness..

So the best attitudes to have towards any one particular woman are:

1. Nonchalance.

2. Non-attachment to whether she likes you or not. (By that I mean, if she likes you that's awesome, but if not, there are tons of other chicks out there who are equally as great as she is.)

The bottom line is that a woman should never be a challenge for you. Instead you should be a challenge for her.

In addition to placing a high value on yourself, you can also eliminate neediness by building up your social network. Make friends with as many women as you can. (Women are easy to make friends with.)

Also date as many women as you can... don't restrict yourself only to dating "that one special girl."

You see, the last thing you ever want to have going through your mind when you're around that special woman is, "God, I MUST have this girl! She's irreplaceable!" Having an abundance of women in your life will solve that problem.

Also, whenever a woman sees that other chicks are attracted to a guy, she too feels attraction. Psychologically, this is known as the "social proof" phenomenon... and it's much more powerful in women than men.

Ever noticed how your female friends drool over the guy at the corner of the bar who's got four babes at his table? That's social proof in action.

By the way, it's fine to think a girl is beautiful and to feel something strong for her.

Here's the key though... you must always remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women out there who are just as wonderful as that girl you really like.

If you start thinking that any girl is one of a kind, then that gives her power over you, and, ironically, makes her lose attraction to you.

So, you're free to think that a woman's amazing. Just remember that lots of other girls are amazing too. That way you won't become needy.

So remember, place a high value on yourself, make her earn your attention, and hang out with as many women as possible... those are the three secrets for how to get a girl to like you.

John Alexander is author of How to Become an Alpha Male, a seduction success system for men. Discover the excitement and pleasure of having gorgeous, horny women automatically drawn to you like a magnet.

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Dating Personals! Incredibly Successful, But How Does It Work?

Dating Personals! Incredibly Successful, But How Does It Work? this article was written by William and he writes "Dating personals offer online dating singles a quick and easy path to quality matchmaking features, and it has become incredibly successful! Dating online services have produced exciting dating tools that help you establish an online romance in the comforts of your home!

There are so many singles out there that are tired of the local dating scene, and they just don't have the time and energy to go out and find many people in their community to develop serious relationships.

Most single individuals are searching, and are now finding a better alternative online to establish a meaningful relationship. With single sites available to you on the Internet, this allows you to place a personal online ad that can easily generate interest from a variety of members that have something in common with you..

How many of you can say that you can actually meet a dozen or more sincere matches in a day with all your same interests in mind? I didn't think so!

Personals services help only if your date resume is complete!

Dating personal features on many dating sites are considered valuable tools when it comes to the complete matchmaking process! However, in order for them to work for you, you must communicate your true character attributes by developing an honest personal resume!

When looking to write quality profiles, you should express your best individual qualities, your likes and dislikes, as well as detailed information on what you're truly looking for. Whether your reasons are for friendship, a serious romance, or future marriage, submitting a detailed and honest resume of yourself will provide you with many quality matches.

If you're serious about meeting Mr. or Mrs. right, your dating profile must be crafted just like your work resume, you must have everything down in a clear format without bad slang or hard to understand metaphors, and everything that you write should be completely true about yourself!

Now I know you might say that no one puts the truth down about who they really are, so my question to you is, if you were to interview these people, do you believe they're going to be in an honest relationship? Probably not! Expressing the truth will eliminate stress on your part, because your true qualities will attract the like-minded partners.

As you get completely comfortable with your featured profile, sit back and wait for the responses to pour into your mail! Depending on which personals site you signed up with, you may have the free personals offered to you prior to getting your paid membership, or you may have the free online service included as a paid member. The real difference will be the amount of features they give you, and I'm sure you know the old phrase; you get what you pay for!

Our suggestion to you is to view many of the personals matchmaking sites and see what works best for you. Compare the difference services offered by each, and if you find out that you want select features such as chat online, matchmaking services, photo submission, or a service password for your safety and privacy, then you should see this as you read their individual listed services directory.

You will quickly and easily find these features, and then be on your way to finding a quality personals match for future friendship, relationships, and who knows possibly love!

About the author: William is the owner and the author of "Intimate Adult Dating Web Site" available at

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Wednesday, July 26, 2006

How to Find the Background of Your Online Date

How to Find the Background of Your Online Date was written by Swaminathan Viramani and he writes "The popularity of online dating has increased dramatically over the past few years. While most online daters are honest and straightforward, some seriously misrepresent themselves. Here are some safety tips and steps to help you weed out the good from the bad and help others do the same.

1. Always be cautious when dating online. While most daters are healthy and honest, some are unsavory characters who could even be dangerous.

2. Don't share personal information such as your last name, home phone, address or workplace information until you feel comfortable with the person..

3. When you are interested in meeting someone look at their entire profile. Does the person appear straightforward? Do they have at least one pleasant picture? Is the picture (s) clear and in focus? Are there red flags in their essays - Do you see signs of anger towards family or previous partners? Are there recent ugly breakups or a history of unsuccessful relationships? If so, be extra cautious and use common sense.

4. If your friends use the same dating service, ask if they have met this person. On some sites and in some smaller cities, often your friends might know or have even met this person. Get their feedback! If nothing else, it can be fun to trade stories.

5. If you know the person's full name, search for his or her information on a search engine. Beware, unless a name is especially rare, there will be multiple results. Read the content on the links to see if it is the same person. Don't feel like you are spying on the person, it is now quite common to research potential dates. You might want check your own name to see what you find!

6. Search for reviews of the person's profile on a dating review site like There may be positive or negative reviews that will give you more information about the person.

Be cautious of people without photos or whose photos are blurry or unclear.

If you are considering traveling to another city to meet another person, be sure to request at least 4 or 5 clear full pictures.

Watch out for people who seem to be especially angry or needy or who disclose personal problems in their profiles. This is often a sign of a person who is not ready for a healthy romantic relationship.

You may even consider using a good software containing database of people, where you can check their entire background. It would be money well spent, when you consider the risks involved in meeting up with someone you have just met online.

Swaminathan Viramani

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How to Create A Romantic Dinner for Two on a Pontoon Boat

How to Create A Romantic Dinner for Two on a Pontoon Boat was written by Thomas Holley and he writes "Before you pick up the phone to make reservations for that romantic dinner for two...STOP. Instead of battling traffic, waiting in line for your table and being at the mercy of the other diners sitting at your elbow, why not jump on the pontoon and head out to the water? With a little imagination, foresight, and moonlight, you can create a romantic dinner for two that your date will never forget. The most important part of creating this memorable evening is in the planning. You don't want to be in the middle of dinner and realize that you've forgotten something important like silverware or a corkscrew.

So, let's start at the beginning and work through the details. First of all, check the weather. Nothing will ruin your dinner quicker than a storm or rough water. Secondly, dock your boat prior to picking up your date. Trailering and launching can often be stressful and it's important that you and your date are completely relaxed from the moment you step on the boat, until you step off. Make sure all of your supplies are loaded into the boat prior to arriving with your date. Check for the exact time the sun is setting and plan to arrive at precisely that moment.

Using easy to find outdoor light strings, ensconce your pontoon with dangling icicles of light, (Don't forget to plug them in before you arrive with your date.) a few well-positioned flower petals on the deck wouldn't be a bad idea either. There is nothing more romantic than walking your significant other down the pier to a softly glowing pontoon enveloped in the pinks and blues of a setting sun..

When planning your meal, you have several options. Although many boats are equipped with grills, nothing takes the fire out of romance quicker than having to cook before you can sit down. For this reason, it's recommended that you consider cooking your meal at home first or picking it up from your favorite restaurant. Keeping it hot or cold is no problem with a thermoelectric cooler. This is a wonderfulproduct sold by Coleman that can not only keep your food at serving temperature but will hold ice and beverages as well. Food umbrellas are the perfect way to keep pesky insects out of your meal and can be purchased inexpensively.

Setting the table is important and if your boat is docked, this can be done prior to the start of your date. If you're planning on heading out to the middle of the lake, however, you may have to wait until you've chosen your spot to complete this task. There are several picnic sets available that will keep all of your dining items in one place or for a little more class, pack it all up in a beautiful wicker basket. Your date will be pleasantly suprised as you pull your table settings, candles, and champagne from the basket with a little flourish. Don't forget the tablecloth!

When you've finished your meal, simply pack it right back up in the basket. Clean up's a breeze. Follow dinner with an amazing dessert from the local bakery and a delightful cup of fresh brewed coffee and then sit back and enjoy the romantic music you have softly playing in the background. If you follow these easy tips and throw in a few special touches of your own, the next time you suggest dinner, don't be suprised if it has to be on the boat.

Thomas Holley is owner of

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Too Ugly? Too Short? Heres How To Turn Your Flaws Into Strengths

Too Ugly? Too Short? Heres How To Turn Your Flaws Into Strengths was written by John Alexander and he writes "If you're worried and upset about your physical flaws, which prevent you from attracting women, then I've got some good news for you.

Not only can you eliminate those flaws, you can turn them into your advantage. I'll explain how by bringing up an example of three guys who were very successful players in their day.

So here's a trivia question for you. What do Steve Tyler of Aerosmith, the late rapper Eazy-E, and Curly from the Three Stooges all have in common?

The answer is they all had voices so high that if they had wanted to, they could have talked to someone on the phone and that person wouldn't have known they were speaking to a man..

It would have been simple for all three men to have hung their heads in shame and turn into beta males who never got laid and never even could get a girl to talk to them.

In fact, I've coached a lot of men who have limiting beliefs when it comes to things like their voice, their looks, their genetics, etc. You name the trait, and there's always somebody who uses that trait as a negative belief, which sabotages their chances at success with women.

However, despite their high voices, Tyler, Eazy-E, and Curly were all masters of a simple technique that turned that big flaw into a big trademark that made them even more attractive to women.

It's a simple technique that I learned when I studied Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), and it will help you as tremendously as it did all three of those men.

In order to develop the confidence of my students, I have them learn and apply this concept. The concept is called reframing.

Here's how reframing works. Basically, you take every negative belief that you have and turn it into a positive, uplifting question. Do it like this:

1. "I feel bad about my voice" becomes "How can I use my unique voice as my own trademark that sets me apart from other guys?" (That's what Tyler, Eazy-E, and Curly all did.)

2. "My face is pockmarked from acne" becomes "How is my face totally awesome? How can my lack of natural good looks actually help me with women?"

3. "I'm too short" becomes "How can I height to my advantage?"

As you ponder your new, reframed questions in your mind, your brain will come up with answers to them.

For example, you might find that it's to your advantage to not be a "pretty boy." Women expect good-looking guys to talk to them, so when you're displaying the confidence to talk with them, their guards will be down.

They won't expect you to try to pick them up. That gives you a window of opportunity to display your confident, alpha male personality.

Being short can allow you to gain rapport much easier with girls than taller guys can. Tall guys have a psychological communication barrier a lot of the time because they're literally speaking to a lot of girls (who tend on average to be shorter than guys) from a different level.

So remember, it's not your flaws that get in your way. It's your limiting beliefs that do.

Your ugly face doesn't get in your way of meeting women. Instead it's your belief about your face, which interferes with your inner sense of confidence. That lack of confidence is toxic, because women pick up on it instantly.

For a woman to be attracted to a guy, his confidence level is one of the most important traits that he can have. You can become comfortable with yourself by turning your flaws from weaknesses into traits that set you apart from the bland, ordinary guys.

So I want you to stop reading after this, get out a pen (or open a blank document in your word processor) and write out your negative beliefs. Then write positive, uplifting questions about how to turn those flaws into good things.

When you become happy and comfortable with all your traits, through the technique of reframing, you'll become unstoppable with your self-confidence. Gain that kind of confidence, and you'll magnetically attract girls to you.

John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male," a dating success guide found at

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How Did Online Dating Become So Popular?

How Did Online Dating Become So Popular?

Try to picture what used to happen earlier in the days when people had to depend on the good ol' postal system. During those days, a person had to wait for one or two days for a letter to get across to a person who lived in the same state itself. The second person in turn would take one or two days to respond and this letter would take on or two days to get back to the first person.

So in effect, a single correspondence would stretch over a week. But now it's a totally different story. The time taken for the first letter and the response has been brought to an amazing 2 minutes! Waiting may make the heart grow fonder but e-mail makes two people get close faster!

The Internet provides for absolute privacy too. One can carry out communication with another person in the absolute privacy of one's bedroom or bath room or wherever one chooses to be. There is no fear of eavesdropping (ugh) or over hearing (shudder!) thanks to e-mail and chat facilities..

Options and Opportunities

The Internet provides for other options like voice chat or video conferencing and stops short only of the physical touch. But then who would want to start a relationship by touching right away? You can see a person, talk to a person, and listen to the person's voice, can you think of a better way to start a date?

All this and more is possible thanks to the internet and the best part is that all this comes to you for peanuts. All you need is a P.C (who doesn't have one?) and an Internet Connection (how can anybody live without one) and you are all set. The only thing more you could ask for is a step by step guide to find your dream date?well here it is!

Are you lonely? Are you looking for someone special? Visit Online Dating and find date, romance, marriage, and fun. Millions of singles are waiting for you.

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Tuesday, July 25, 2006

How To Write A Successful Personal Ad

How To Write A Successful Personal Ad was written by Oscar Walter and he writes "No one would know how good you are if you would not let them know about it. Whether you are promoting yourself for a job or for a date, you have to advertise yourself well.

You have written your own personal ad. Unfortunately, no one seems to be paying attention on your ad. You are a little apprehensive that you do not possess the skills you need to write a successful ad. You are thinking that perhaps it's not really your writing that's making you less appealing but your very own personality. You want to overhaul your ad but you are considering others to write for you because you feel you can't make an eye-catching ad.

Do not feel dampen about it. There's a lot in you than you can think of. It's just a matter of assessing yourself. Discover your full potentials. Examine your ad and check what's lacking in there. You might only be missing some good points..

Want to write a successful personal ad to get you in your dream job or a hot date? Why ask someone else to write for you when you can hire yourself to be your advertiser!

Be your own brand manager. It's all right to ask your friends how are you as a person. But remember, it is only you who knows your true personality. It's just that sometimes, you do not pay attention analyzing yourself and discovering your full potentials.

Here are some helpful tips in writing successful personal ads.

1. Be honest

Do not let others expect too much from you or expect less of you. Write what is only true. Do not exaggerate data. Bare your true personality. Don't under estimate yourself. Show your best qualities if you must. You should not be ashamed to flaunt it if you really have it.

2. Be different

Create your own style. What makes an ad boring is that it looks like the same as the others. If your readers see that it's same as the others, they might even think that you just copy your own. Be unique. Make an exclusive claim of your ad. Avoid being stereotyped. This will make your individuality a lot visible. And this will set you among the rest. Avoid creating an impression that you are plain and boring.

3. Learn from reading others

Examine other works. Read them carefully and take note of their good points in writing. Search for the best successful personal ads and make them your guide in developing your own style. Determine the styles they use to make their ad very interesting.

4. Start with a good lead

Your first sentence should make the readers read the succeeding sentences. This means that your first line should immediately catch reader's attention. Make a sweeping statement about yourself. Summarize in one sentence how interesting you are before you go through the meat of it. If you introduce yourself like, "Hi, I'm Peter Scott, 24.", chances are they'll just close their window and move on to the next ad. Your lead must build up interest and give an exciting preview of what they would expect when they read the entire ad.

5. Go to the meat of you ad thoroughly

Don't restrict yourself from going through the details of your admirable features. Go into the meat of your abilities, skills and assets. Specify what you want out of this ad. Check closely if you have put all the necessary description of your personality. Do not enumerate boringly. Insert a lot of positive adjectives to enhance the list of your qualities. It will benefit you a lot if you can make your readers understand how these qualities can be of best benefit to them. Be consistent on hyping them with your ad.

6. End with a great impact

Once you have established yourself well enough from the lead and the meat of your end, make sure that you leave a lasting impact to your readers. Your ending paragraph should encourage urgent response. Make your readers feel that you are one of the most sought after people. That if they take time considering you they might end up losing you.

7. Play up your best assets.

In the meat of your article, follow an inverted pyramid style. Start with your most important and admirable assets going through the least of them in the end. If you impress them with your finest qualities, they will take little notice of your weaknesses. Impress them first hand. Play up your expertise. Focus on them. Enhance these with striking sentences to enhance your skills and other qualities.

8. Package yourself

As I said, be your own brand manager. Brand yourself based on your excellent skills and qualities. Create your own identity and make it evident to your writing.

9. Stand out of the crowd

Now, read the other ads. Compare yours to them. Ask yourself, does your ad stands out among the rest? Make sure that it does because once you stand out, it will be easy for the readers to pick you as their choice. Shine among the rest.

10. Write your finer points

Transform your weaknesses into fine points. Or better yet, make your weak points very subtle. Focus more on your finer qualities. In fact, lure your readers to a number of your fine points so that they may forget to ask about your weaknesses.

Lastly, be your own judge. While it is good to consider other people's perception on you, do not depend entirely on them. Be objective. If you think that their judgment is baseless, do not entertain them.

Create your own image and be creative as possible. Let your readers get hook on your personal ad. Love your qualities and be confident with what you are. Put your best foot forward. These are the keys in writing a successful personal ad.

Make a lasting impression and you will reap the attention of thousand readers out there. Yes, more than you can handle. So what are you waiting for? Grab your pen and write your way to success!

About The Author
Oscar Walter is the webmaster of At this site you will find a lot more dating tips and links to great dating sites.

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How To Have Sex On A First Date

How To Have Sex On A First Date was written by John Alexander and he writes "Guys have all different motives for trying to be successful with women. Personally, I love relationships, because why would I want to sleep with a chick just once?

A lot of other guys just go for one night stands. That's cool too.

Whatever your goal is in dating, the best way to achieve it as a man is to go all the way with the woman, right from the start.

And make no mistake, the single best way to get a woman into a relationship is to hook up with her from the start. This is because sex like that can only happen with a guy who has swept her off her feet and had a deep connection with her almost instantaneously.

For that reason, I counsel the guys I coach to try to persist for sex and get laid on the very first date with a woman. This article will explain how to do that..

Having gone out with with literally thousands of women and gone to bed with hundreds over the past two and a half decades, I've learned that there's nothing you can do to GUARANTEE having sex with any particular woman.

However, by doing a few simple things, you can dramatically INCREASE THE ODDS of going all the way on the very first night of your relationship.

1. Meet her in a non-traditional venue.

By that I mean, don't take her to a fancy dinner or do anything else that she associates with a "date." If you do, that puts her into the same "make him wait" mindset that she adopted with the last 100 guys who bought her a nice dinner.

Instead meet her somewhere informal, like a coffee shop or some cheap diner for lunch. Don't make a big deal out of who pays for what, because again, the last 100 guys she dated paid for her meal because, as was blatantly obvious to her, they were hoping to get laid.

As an alpha male, you shouldn't do anything because you're "hoping to get laid." That reeks of desperation and kills attraction that a woman feels.

A more attractive guy is one who gets laid all the time, so sex is no big deal to him. If a woman wants his attention, she has to earn it. In other words, he is a challenge for her, not a sure thing.

2. Have the proper mindset throughout the date.

You want to be relaxed and feeling sexual. (To get yourself into a sexual state, try watching porn just before the date, but don't masturbate.) And it's important to feel relaxed. No nervousness.

For a woman to become sexual, she needs to feel relaxed and horny. It is important that you feel that exact way yourself, because studies have shown that when two people are in rapport, they eventually match emotional states with each other.

So when you're chilling with the girl, you should feel deeply relaxed and horny, and then engage her in conversation about neutral subjects until you see signs that she too is getting relaxed and horny.

3. Get her alone with you.

Let's say you and the girl hit it off fantastically in the coffee shop, so you then take her to a bar to get a quick drink. Things are really going well there. The conversational vibe is excellent. You see signs of her increasing sexual arousal and openness to intimacy.

Some body language signs of a woman's deepening sexual attraction to you include:

- Sitting with her inner thigh exposed.

- Fidgeting with her clothes. She might even unfasten a button or two of her blouse.

- She engages in "triangle gazing." She'll look at one of your eyes, then another, and then at your mouth.

- You notice her stealing glimpses at your chest and even your crotch.

The problem is you can't just say, "Let's go to my place and have sex." With women you're on a first date with, whenever you verbalize anything sexual, it kills the mood for her and results in you sleeping alone that night.

Instead, mention an innocent excuse for the two of you to go to your place. (Examples could be, "You should come hear my 'Best of the 80s' CD" or "That's awesome that you're so good with art? I have a painting in my living room that I'd love to get your opinion on")

Since the two of you have an "innocent" reason to be alone together, it avoids triggering the alarm bells in her mind that scream, "Uh oh! I don't want to be a slut!"

Once the two of you are then alone, isolated at your place, you can set the scene for the seduction.

It can take several hours for the woman to feel comfortable enough with you at your house, so you need to be patient.

Sit on your couch and watch a movie. Slowly escalate. Hold hands, stroke her hair, and so on from there.

Sexually, women are like irons. They heat up slowly. Keep that in mind and don't rush things, and you'll have your maximum shot at having sex on a first date.

John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male," a dating and seduction success guide for men found at

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Flowers Leading the Way

Natalie Aranda has written Flowers Leading the Way and writes "Online dating is very popular and also provides a safe way in which to meet other singles with many of your same interests. Instead of trying to find that perfect someone by going out on blind dates set up by friends and family members, doing the bar scene or just plain giving up, many single people today are meeting they soul mates online.

That is how Dave and Sue met. They have been enjoying each others company through chat, web cam and emails since Dave lives in Leeds, UK and Sue lives in Sheffield, UK and they have not had the chance to meet in person. Their online romance has been one that you only hear about and never believe could happen to you.

Dave and Sue have shared their hopes, dreams and ambitions and have much more in common than you would imagine. Sharing important holidays, birthdays, and other events these past few months have been wonderful. Dave found a wonderful online UK florist that has been his helper throughout his online romantic journey. He has sent flowers such as Gerbera bouquets, sunflowers, desert roses, and plants for different occasions. He chose many wonderful arraignments such as Tickled Pink which is an assortment of Raspberry roses and jellybean gerberas that arrive in their own elegant vase and Shepherds Delight which really brightened her day with gerberas and sunset-colored roses mingled with crimson petals, fiery berries and dusky foliage. She has loved each token of his admiration and sentiment as soon as the flowers arrived on her doorstop in Sheffield, UK from his florist in Leeds, UK.

Their online romance is ready to take the next step and meet in person. Dave has taken a week off from work for his vacation and Sue found someone to take her place at work so she could also take a week off and enjoy his company. Dave has arraigned transportation and lodging at a hotel close to Sue's home, has everything packed and is ready to leave.

He wants a very special gift for Sue so of course he goes back to his trusty online UK florist for ideas. He decided on ordering the Heavenly Rose Hand-tied along with a bottle of champagne to be delivered the morning before his arrival.

When the beautiful roses were delivered Sue was so overjoyed and could not wait until she could run into Dave's arms and thank him for the magnificent flowers.

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Natalie Aranda is a freelance writer. She spent a summer in UK in 1998. She enjoyed the online shopping experience with florist in London and London flower shops that send flowers to Leeds, and London florists for Bristol flower delivery

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How to Get Over an Ex When You're Still In Love

Barbara Rose has written How to Get Over an Ex When You're Still In Love and writes "1. First, put yourself in the opposite position: If YOU didn't want to be with someone, and let him or her know it, what would you expect the other person to do? Hopefully let go, and move on with dignity.

2. The biggest "cure all" every time you miss them, or are thinking about them with sadness, is to VIVIDLY remember the times they treated you like DIRT, and ask yourself: "Is THAT what I REALLY WANT?" When the answer is NO - then keep that in your mind. It will replace the old pattern of putting them on a pedestal when they treated you far less than the way you deserved. It will also help you to replace the pain with the truth of the situation..

3. Every time thoughts about them suddenly come into your mind, do the above, AND re-direct your focus on to something that is positive and life enhancing for YOU, or others that you love. You have the power to consciously re-direct your thoughts and FOCUS. Do that every time the blues start to creep in to your consciousness.

4. Really TRUST that everything DOES work out for the best in the long run, and if you can remember a time when you were sad about something, only to be grateful for the growth you've made, and how the situation worked out for your highest and best after all, this will help you realize that this situation is no different.

5. View the other person with compassion, rather than with bitterness. Realize that they did the best they were capable of, and if their best was not in your best interest, then it is a gift that they are out of your life!

6. Get deeply and passionately absorbed in your life purpose! THIS is the most powerful thing you can do! Why waste your energy, focus, and attention on a PAST situation, when you can really be making significant and positive difference in your life, as well as in the lives of others!

7. Every time you start to think about them, and begin to play your drama of the past in your mind, consciously CHOOSE to focus on the NOW, and all of the great things you can be doing. Focus on being and expressing your highest and best self. Remember that you don't NEED them at all. YOU are the gift. They may be a gift as well, however, if they are out of your life, your life MUST carry on in the most vibrant, positive and life-renewing manner possible. This is ALL within your conscious choice and control.

8. Really thank them (in your mind) for every lesson you have learned, every new discovery you have made, and the difference they DID make in your life. Realize that THAT was their purpose for entering your life. So now you can release them with a lot of gratitude, loving compassion, dignity, and grace.

9. Someone that I personally know that is going through the throws of emotional agony in trying to let go of a relationship that just ended said: "We need to know WHY We SHOULD Let THEM GO TO BEGIN WITH!"

The Answer is so that YOU can be FREE FROM PAIN, and misery! So that you can attract someone into your life that will treat you incredibly well, and because you DESERVE to be happy in a real relationship!

Why should you hold out for crumbs from someone similar to a dog waiting on the doormat for a couple of crumbs of attention? Don't you really deserve to have a fantastic relationship? YES! You do! Everyone does. If you are in pain the majority of the time, then you deserve to free yourself, so that you can live with inner peace, and grow with enough self-love to attract your true counterpart.

You can only attract according to what you believe you deserve, and I swear to you that you WILL attract someone that is far healthier for you once you really learn how to love and appreciate yourself.

Don't you want to be treated in the best manner possible? So if you are in pain most of the time, that pain is saying: "Hey, get me out of this, because IT HURTS!" And the only way to remove yourself from the source of emotional agony in your life is to make a COMPLETE break.

It's like keeping your hand halfway in boiling water! If you take your hand out completely, and heal it, then you will be free from pain!

If you choose to keep dipping your fingers into boiling water, this is the same as continuing to return to a painful relationship. One is physical pain, and the other is emotional.

There is no judgment at all. So please do NOT judge yourself for allowing yourself to be treated far less than you deserve. The only thing that matters is what you do from THIS moment forward. Love yourself - a LOT!

10. The only one you will EVER need is YOU. The only one that will NEVER leave you is YOU. So place ALL of your energy on being and expressing all you came into this life for. It is NOT about them - it is all about you and your growth. That is the most important thing. Now you have learned more, and realized more. You have evolved more as a result of all you have been through. As you come to fully awaken to all of your grand possibilities, you really won't have the time, or the care to focus your attention on a past situation. It is like focusing on anything else that is in the past. NOW is your time to re-claim yourself, and shine as the beacon that you are. You will feel so much better once you take all of the above steps - as long as you really apply them.

© Copyright by Barbara Rose. All rights reserved.
Barbara Rose is an Internationally acclaimed public speaker, spiritual author of: "Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE" "If God Was Like Man"and "Individual Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth, and Your Life", founder of The Rose Group publishing company, inspire! Magazine, Institute of Higher Self Communication, and Rose Humanitarian Alliance.

She works in Divine Cooperation with others to uplift the spiritual consciousness of humanity. Through a Divine Spiritual gift she brings through information to create the highest vision of your life, and our world. Her internationally praised seminars, widely published articles, Higher Self Certification intensives, and Divinely Channeled private consultations have changed the lives of thousands across the globe.
For enlightening info, contacts, books, articles and resources to help you become your highest self, visit Barbara's website:

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